Because the child is too small, my husband and I are not willing to let them live with the elderly, so the child was born, I have been in the home with children, preparing children for kindergarten until next year, I went back to work beside her husband, ending long-term and more couples living together separated from the living. And this period, either the husband taking the time to come back, or take their children to her husband where I sojourn time.
Her son has been over 2 years old this year, begin to have some self-awareness, but when the kids every time we are asleep then, we have only been married life has never been an accident, so we will never commit to do some prevention work in front of the children are asleep when it is too married life. Some time ago, her husband said that his son wanted to, wanted me to join with his son over him, ready to go home years ago, I also agreed.
to her husband there, but something went wrong that night, my son Shortly before sleep, I said his son did not sleep heavy, but her husband is very impatient, I was reluctantly to be him, because her husband was too intense, not accidentally wake the sleeping son, dim light, I do not know when to do it son from the bed, watching us as frightened out of her, screaming for her mother. Tianjin marriage counseling I quickly pushed her husband, picked up his son, even the lights did not dare open that moment I saw the frightened eyes of his son heart so sad.
son had been threatened because of previous over, my husband was struggling together with being seen his son is crying for her mother, then, as long as I have had with my husband on that limb little trick will not accept his son watched. I do not know is because this is not the case, his son was frightened again. this thing, I later had a fight with her husband in private once, blame him for a lot of money the father of a qualified , her husband also, in turn blame I do not understand man, I have been his gas dizzy. have been very timid son, plus this time of shock, my heart has been uneasy, but do not know that his son will not shock effects caused by the follow-up.
Comments:
your child will be too much to the force of your married life as an unusual scene the psychological impact, and the negative effects of such psychological reaction is mainly derived from the first time you and your spouse's scuffle scene in front of children caused by the psychological fear of the child, only this time the scene once again aroused the psychological trauma of children, in addition to your long-separated spouses, children rarely see his father, the lack of the necessary father, resulting in character becomes weak with the timid, it also has a certain relationship.
children's psychology in the event by the vicious attacks, you should fade as soon as possible to help children traumatic memories, to forget the unpleasant things as soon as possible, to give them some concern and care, more interaction with their children, often caress your child, your child feel loved the warmth of care, try not to let the children alone, so that the child sense of security. Also, to try to transfer the child's attention, such as children want to go nuts life can become more colorful, some children take their children to the park and other places for children to play, let him do what you enjoy doing things, so that children do not have time to think out that he had met who was considered a terrible thing, while the front of the children to try to avoid reference to some unpleasant memories, arouse and strengthen the child to avoid the traumatic memories.
also Yes, you such a long way to the growth of children of separation does have some influence, I suggest you husband and kids usually more parent-child interaction, children in a loving environment to grow full, then there to remind you to avoid recurrence of similar incidents, I believe that the child will grow healthy.
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